2019 is the year we take…

No Shit From Anyone. The we is for women identifying people, the Anyone is people who are trying to bring down women identifying people. 

Also, I’m scaring the shit out of men in 2019. I will speak absolute truths in a quite voice. I will wear whatever the fuck I want and break every bone in your body if you try to shame me for feeling great in my body. I will be bolder, make more things, give no Fucks, and in general be both terrifying and amazing. 

If you see me or stand next to me and feel inadequate, it’s only because you’ve believed the lie that we’re in a competition. I’m your biggest cheerleader, go be great. Unless you’re CIS man who cowering in my shadow. Then you’re correct, you are inadequate.  

rosewater1997:

“You don’t know anyone at the party, so you don’t want to go. You don’t like cottage cheese, so you haven’t eaten it in years. This is your choice, of course, but don’t kid yourself: it’s also the flinch. Your personality is not set in stone. You may think a morning coffee is the most enjoyable thing in the world, but it’s really just a habit. Thirty days without it, and you would be fine. You think you have a soul mate, but in fact you could have had any number of spouses. You would have evolved differently, but been just as happy. You can change what you want about yourself at any time. You see yourself as someone who can’t write or play an instrument, who gives in to temptation or makes bad decisions, but that’s really not you. It’s not ingrained. It’s not your personality. Your personality is something else, something deeper than just preferences, and these details on the surface, you can change anytime you like. If it is useful to do so, you must abandon your identity and start again. Sometimes, it’s the only way.”

— Julien Smith, The Flinch (via wnq-anonymous)

you didn’t have to say it with such conviction Julien. Now I feel stupid for letting small things keep me from my dreams and desires. 

anactofcaprise:

Moving to the Pacific Northwest is not a substitute for a personality, Jenn.

This is how I feel about men who say they love to workout. No you don’t Chris, no one loves to workout. The Rock doesn’t love it, but he’s a professional mountain so he does it anyway.

daeranilen:

real-pcys:

real-pcys:

hot take: moms need to learn how to listen to and comfort their daughters without making everything about their own traumas

a classic example

daughter: hey this thing you do bothers me very much and i wish you wouldn’t do it

mom: well my parents abused me and im not even as bad as they were and i had to sit through it so you gotta sit through whatever i do to you too

a common variant

mom: well i’m having a really hard time right now and you know that i’m doing my best and that i didn’t mean to hurt you ergo you are in fact the asshole for asking me to consider your feelings and change my behavior during this hard hard time i’m having

Holy shit! I just realized my mom has been doing this to me my entire life! Never phrased with this much venom but definitely in a voice of judgement and dismissal! No wonder I don’t feel like I can talk to her.

icedriveway:

odinsblog:

Kinda seems like a one sided conversation, doesn’t it? I’m tired of “conversations on race” whenever another innocent, unarmed black person is executed by the police. They’re as perfunctory as they are repetitive.

We need justice, not another hollow conversation that doesn’t change anything and does nothing to prevent the next shooting.

(original image credit: Clay Bennett)

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It’s such a long post I found myself becoming overwhelmed with sadness, fear, anger, resentment, despare, hopelessness as I scrolled.